Why I Care About Beliefs and You Should Too
What do you believe?
Do you know?
If I asked you to take out a piece of paper and on one side write down the following : food, religion, sex, family, relationships, romantic relationships, health, exercise, making money, working, and travel and on the other side, write down your beliefs about every single one .. would you be able to?
I think that you would. But I also know that you’d be missing something.
Why?
Because so many of our beliefs are formed without us even realizing it.
They’re formed from our values.
And our values are formed when we’re teeny, tiny little half-pints barely able to see above the counter tops.
Do you remember everything that happened when you couldn’t see above the counter tops?
I certainly don’t.
But shit was happening. And it was happening fast. And your little toddler brain was trying to make sense of it all. And in doing so, it started forming beliefs, stories if you will, about what was true and not true about life. Because when you did that, the world was easier to manage and navigate. So it kept forming stories and beliefs based on things that happened (and sometimes more importantly, things that didn’t happen) to you and the people around you.
These stories stuck around (and are likely still there) because at the time the people who were showing you these things were also likely your main providers for things like food and shelter. So it was important to your little toddler or baby brain that you believe what they said (and did).
Eventually you grew up .. and didn’t have to depend on those people or situations for survival anymore .. but the stories stuck around.
But why do I care you might be asking?
Because I would bet you $100 that those stories are impacting your life right now. In this moment, as you read this. Actually, make that $1,000,000 .. that’s how sure I am.
In this week’s LIVE that I did on this very topic, I gave the example of someone having the belief that making money is hard. That person will also happen to find themselves in a lot of situations where they have to work really hard for their money or exert a lot of time and effort in order to make money to live.
I also talked about my own struggle with my beliefs around exercise. I had this belief that I essentially had to kill myself in the gym in order for my workout to be effective. I come from a family of perfectionists, very black-and-white/do-or-die thinkers and so I carried this belief with me to exercise. I thought that if I wasn’t going big, I should essentially just go home.
It wasn’t until I started to put my health at risk by pushing my body past its natural limits daily / on the regular that I realized I needed a change. I stopped doing workouts of any kind (other than to take the pup for her walk) for a large chunk of time. And I rested. And recharged. And regrouped.
When I finally did start to introduce movement back into my routine it was slow, and steady, and organic. I didn’t do anything I didn’t want to do and I only moved in ways / for amounts of time that felt really, really good .. and energizing. Instead of depleting .. and like I wanted to sleep for the rest of the day.
So I would ask you to do the same. Are there areas in your life that maybe aren’t going as you planned or would like? What do you believe about the general theme of that situation (remember the list from the beginning)?
Awareness is the first step. Always and forever. I know it sounds cliche but it’s just so freaking true that I have to say it. It is the first step.
The next is action. Inspired action. Intuitive action. Feel good action.
How do you do that? By working with me. I’m not kidding. My goal for every single client is to help them master habit change; but really to master themselves. To give them the tools and resources that they can use for a lifetime to come .. to be able to do whatever the fuck they want to do with and in their life.
If this is resonating, please contact me : emily@emilysocha.com. I’ll talk to you soon.
Want more? Watch the LIVEstream HERE.