Recently I traveled from Scottsdale, AZ to Boston, MA. The trip took me approximately 6 days and I covered roughly 2600 miles. As I was driving I realized there were quite a few similarities between various life lessons about confidence and my experience making the trek across the country.
This move meant so much more to me than just changing my geographical location and heading back to my hometown because in so many ways I also felt it was an expression of my own coming home to myself. I decided to make significant changes in my business in addition to the significant change in my latitude and longitude and I honestly couldn’t be happier.
I decided to compile my thoughts in a five part blog series entitled Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost : Life Lessons on Confidence (from a cross-country road trip).
This is Part III:
5. Your Body Always Knows Best
I quickly realized that spending my days on the road was not something that I wanted to do more of than I needed to so I mapped out an exact route with a detailed plan of when and how I would arrive. So detailed that there was a moment in the beginning where I didn’t want to stop (outside of my planned bathroom breaks).
After enough wiggling and wriggling (from myself .. and the dog), it became apparent on one leg of the trip that we just needed to make time for an extra break. I found the next safest stop and pulled over so we could stretch our legs and relieve our bladders. As we got back in the car, I told myself that the break was necessary and we’d just have to make up for the “lost” time on the next leg. But then I remembered my promise of consistency (aka #4). Instead of speeding up, I turned the cruise control back on and kept my speed at an even keel through the remainder of that day’s travels. And ya wanna know what? We arrived on time.
My takeaway when it comes to building your confidence? Listening to your body is good for the soul and actually helps to build the confidence to trust yourself. In New Mexico I had created a well designed and easily implementable plan but the reality of being on the road meant that I was forced to listen to myself and my body’s wants and needs as they presented themselves.
Here’s the thing. Confidence is doing the things that you’re afraid to do but deep down really want to but it’s also about having the courage to be yourself in a world where everyone else is trying to put you in a box of some sort. So I leave you with this: where you can tune into yourself a little more today? What is your body trying to tell you that you could acknowledge and take on action on?
6. It’s. All. Relative.
Lemme give you an example. The first day of the trip I did 6.5 hours, give or take. I was tired when I got to the hotel but as soon as I settled in, caught up on some work and rested a bit, I started thinking “but I could be driving, I’m not *that* tired”.
Cue to Day 2 where I decided to go from Albuquerque, NM to Tulsa, OK. That’s a 9 hour drive, but remember, “I could be driving” .. so I decided to make the trek and a 9 hour drive quickly turned into a 10.5 hour trip and Tulsa, OK was beginning to look like a great FINAL destination.
On Day 3, I decided to pace it out and promised myself that it was OK if we arrived to the hotel with enough time to eat and relax before collapsing into bed (who knew driving could be so exhausting?!). The drive ended up being about 6 hours long and felt like a total breeze.
Takeaway? It’s all relative. The thing you feel scared to do now will feel like nothing at this time next year if you learn how to build the confidence to do it right now. But if you wait and hem and haw and put it off, it’s likely to feel even bigger than it does now the next time you circle back to it.
Is there something in your life that feels overwhelming to you right now? Maybe like it’s too much to handle or take on? Can you reframe it? Can you put it into context next to something bigger? (And in no way am I trying to say that what you’re trying to accomplish or are going through is small potatoes, but it can be enormously helpful to put everything into context of other things.) When we focus on just the singular event we are more likely to create stories in our mind that may not be 100% accurate but when placed in context next to other events/situations/people or experiences, it’s easier to see that everything is always all relative.
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